Let's start off by setting the mood:
You're newly engaged to the love of your life, the excitement is overwhelming and you are aggressively saving inspiration pictures to your newly created wedding Pinterest board.
You've arrived at the bridesmaid dress color palettes. But who are your bridesmaids going to be? Some of you may not have to give it a second thought, you know exactly who will stand next to you at the alter. But for many of you, there is not even an inkling of an idea of who should (or should not) be in your bridal party.
Luckily, we are going to break this down into some easy thoughts to consider when handing out those coveted, "Will You be my Bridesmaid?" invites.
Who Celebrates Your Wins?
The last thing you need or have time for, is someone who finds it necessary to compete with or negate any positivity that comes into your life. Whether it be a friend, co worker or even a sibling if they can't genuinely celebrate your successes and happiness then they have no place being in your bridal party.
Do You Require Financial Contributions from your Bridesmaids?
Weddings are magical and fun to attend however, they are equally as draining financially. Your bridal party will need to shoulder the burden of additional costs compared to your regular guests. Are you having a bachelorette party? Will your bridesmaids need to cover the cost of it? Think about the limo rental, hotel rooms, food etc. Not everyone will have a lucrative budget but they also may not possess the ability to say no to being your bridesmaid.
While their financial situation is not your problem (nor your business), make an effort to outline what you are going to require financially so that they have the opportunity to make the best decision for themselves, and ultimately for you too.
Where Do They Live?
We are lucky enough to live in a world where we can travel and live almost anywhere we want. But this can also mean that our friends and family are more than a 30 minute drive away. If you live in Canada, but your bridesmaid lives in Australia, that is going to make it extremely unrealistic for her to attend all of your wedding festivities and events. Is this a deal breaker for you? If you truly have a vision of all of your bridesmaids being present for every event in your wedding planning journey, then you should heavily consider their proximity to you.
Will Personalities Clash or Mesh?
Those of us who have worked in the wedding industry closely with brides and their bridesmaids have probably all said before, "there is always one." That one, being the person who successfully ruins the occasion or upsets everyone else in the group each time they get together. If you are considering someone who you know will not make the effort to try and be civil with everyone, then your answer is heck no! You're going to end up with bridesmaids backing out last minute over avoidable drama or you will have some very sour looking bridal party photos. Invite them as an honorary guest but keep them out of the wedding party.
Do You Even Want Bridesmaids?
Just because having bridesmaids is the mainstream choice, doesn't mean you are required to have them. Think micro weddings or elopements. The less moving parts you have in a wedding, typically the less stressful it is going to be. Invite your siblings and close friends to be honorary guests or give them a specific seating plan or color palette to dress in. There are other ways to include them without dubbing them "bridesmaids".
In closing, these are the 5 important things to consider when choosing your bridesmaids:
Do they celebrate your wins?
Financial Implications & Expectations
Where do they live?
Bridesmaids or no bridesmaids?
What were some other thoughts and ideas you took into consideration when planning your wedding? Let us know in the comments!